Monday, August 24, 2009

Mom Stress


I've been feeling a little self inflicted mom stress lately.

Do you know what I mean?

The kind of worry about
if my kids are getting enough fruits and vegetables,
too much sugar,
not enough exercise,
too much tv,
enough practice reading time,
really learning about God's Word,
growing properly,
riding their bikes safely,
making friends at school,
learning to treat others with respect...

...are we "organic" enough...

...the list could go on and on...
and it does in my mind.


My mom gave me a piece of advice

when I was just a young worry-wart:

There will always be people that are better at things than you!

The sooner you realize that the easier life will be.


Obviously, I've found out that is true, but that doesn't seem to change the feelings of insecurity that come my way as mom! I'm surrounded by people whose children can compete in sports at high levels, read fluently at young ages, eat only organic fruits and vegetables, and so on.


What I really must learn to focus on is my focus rather than my worries and comparisons to others. Things on my list can becomes idols...anything that consumes my thoughts or actions more than thoughts or actions about God. Unfortunately those idols can take root in my heart before I even realize it, I'm stewing and planning and trying to figure out how to be like "someone" rather than trying to focus on being like Christ.


So, how am I going to get out of this worrying rut?


Eat dessert?

No.

(Although I'm always a sucker for cake when I'm stressed!)


I've got this amazing tool that sometimes,

ashamedly, is the last thing I use.


Prayer.


It's amazing what time talking to My Savior will do for all those worries and insecurities!

Ultimately, I have to rest in the fact that I'm giving it my best...which as a wretched sinner is truly nothing...but through Christ's grace and mercy, it's all taken care of. My children are in God's hand. He provides the wisdom I need to nurture their little bodies and minds.


Do I need to be wise and alert?

Absolutely.


Do I need to be consumed with worry?

Not at all.


I love this verse:

Philippians 4:6

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.

Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done.


3 comments:

peter marie said...

Excellent. I think all of us moms have these feelings at some point. And I've totally noticed I didn't have these feelings as much when Henry was just a little babe and I had NO idea what blogs were. :)

Thanks for the encouragment!

Tracy Naysmith said...

Londa, your words are oh ~ so encouraging. I have been there... I often question myself as to how well I'm parenting, but God trusts us with His children. What an amazing gift! Thanks for sharing.

Katie@The Baby Factory said...

Hi Londa-Thanks for stopping by my blog! I found yours through Katie Brooks, and I have to say, I'm a sucker for seasoned moms that are going through the same thing that I am, twin boys :)

That said, you are so right about the value of prayer when it comes to squelching worry....and I've had a lot of worry and not enough prayer lately....thanks for the great reminder!